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Jessie NguyenInstructor: BogartIRW115January 21, 2018Formal Assignment #1:  Rough Drafts In “Thought Experiment” by George Saunders.

The Statement “it’s so natural for us to blame a person for being the person she is, to expect her to autocorrect” her flaws. In my opinion, that is completely wrong and unfair when you judge someone base on their mistakes and personality. Hiding our judgments is a necessary social skill, and it is called politeness. The rule of politeness dictate that negative judgments be disguined to prevent us from damaging someone’s esteem. We get a sense of who really thinks well of us and who doesn’t think we’re up to snuff, even when they do not voice their thoughts.

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We often forget that we, too, leak information about our judgments to others. We struggles with our own judgments, and worry whether the way we praise or blame others makes us deserve praise or blame. We try to manage our judgments when we blame a friend for being a person that we don’t want he or she to become.

Either blame on them just because they didn’t gave us the feeling of satisfied. “If she/he knows what I’ve done, will she/he disapprove of me the way she/he disapproves of others?” we may wonder. But the fact is we cannot judge someone base on what they did because you wouldn’t know what’s the reason makes them go through that decisions, you’re not a main character of their story. There were times I was blamed by my parents, by a friend.. For “being sensitive” or even “being the person I am”.

There were many times when I blamed myself for lacking patience, meaner than necessary, for being weakness or selfish. Among friends, among co-workers, and with a partner, we glow in a presence of praise and glower in the presence of blame. The concept of unconditional love is so appealing and so confused – because it promises a special haven from our judgmental world.

But even our closet, most abiding relationships, where love itself maybe unconditional, where attachment endures, are impacted by judgment. Another ideal is “What someone else thinks of me doesn’t matter”; what matter is “knowing who I am”, regardless of what anyone else thinks. As I shall show, self – appraisal is of paramount importance, but how we see ourselves is a affected by others judgments. There may not be a simple relationship between thinking well of oneself and being admired by others; but the human brain has evolved to take note of others judgments.One constant as we navigate any of the variety of human environments is our need to be able to live with others. It is now understood that the large size of human brain reflects the demands of attachment, cooperation, communication, and judgment-the bases of our sociability. In other words, our large brain results from our fundamental social bent. Some readers may initially be disturbed or doubtful that we are fundamentally judgmental creatures and that others’ judgments impact so deeply on us.

Some people adhere to the ideal that we should not judge others. Judgmental is a term normally used as a criticism and is often equated with making negative judgments. Many common sayings warn us against being judgmental “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it”.Praise and blame themselves are complicated judgments systems. Neither is invariably helpful or damaging.

Neither is invariably comforting or hurtful. Both are necessary and, in my view, inevitable. I hope one day we will increase understanding of how our judgments, particularly those that can be characterized broadly as praise or blame, develop within and impact the full range of our relationships, from the most intimate and enduring to the most transient and casual. Awareness that we live, day by day,  in the constant company of our judgments, both sublimital and conscious, both positive and negative, that we constantly monitor the judgments of others, particularly those directed towards us, will vastly improve our ability to manage our biases, to tolerate others views, behaviors, and to make sense of our most powerful and confusing responses to ourselves and to others.

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